Friendships.
A lot has changed since having Boo. Especially with friends. I know I’ve already blogged about friendships once, but I can’t help but to return to it as so much has gone on in the last two months.
First, and most importantly, I’ve finally reconnected with an old friend who I haven’t talked to in over a year. It’s such a good feeling knowing he’s back in our lives. He’s such a good-hearted person and even though he is the most aggravating person in the world to get a hold of, he’s an important piece to our puzzle. He was in our wedding, has been there to help us move our countless times, and has been a great support over the years. He seemed to drop off the face of the earth when we told him we were having Boo, and it really hurt not to have him around. But we’ve made amends and we’re probably all the better for it.
Also since becoming pregnant with Boo, we’ve lost some good friends. The most pronounced loss of a friendship was regarding our baby shower. It’s a long story, that should never have been quite as epic as it became, but we ended up losing two really close friends before Boo was even born. Just recently, I was contacted again by them and thought we were all ready to move on. It turns out they weren’t quite ready, and everything blew up again. Things have escalated beyond anyone’s control, and now we have all irreparably damaged any semblance of a possible friendship in the future. This situation is disheartening because they were, at one time, very close friends who we loved to see. We didn’t think they had one mean bone in their bodies. Turns out we were wrong.
Another turning point is our friends moving to Hawaii. We didn’t see much of these friends, because our lives had taken us in very different directions, but when we did see them we were reminded of how great these people were and how lucky we were to have them in our lives. Now they live in the middle of the Pacific on one of the islands of Hawaii, and we rarely see them. They are home now for a brief time, and they’ve at least met Boo, but it saddens me that they’re going to leave again and who knows the next time we’ll see them.
It’s funny the directions life takes you and the way friendships wax and wane over time. They aren’t paradise or parking lots, but Joni Mitchell was right; you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.
